Hi, my name is Abi O’Donovan.
I have an insatiable curiousity and a passion for living, loving and experiencing. I have always questioned much of what I was taught. It’s been my saving grace.
If you’re anything like me you’ve probably asked many questions during the course of your life about love, life, death, God, sex, spirituality, and received answers that just didn’t sit right with you.
Why Is There Such A Split Between Sex And Spirit?
I’ve long mused over such questions as “Why is there such a split between sex and spirit? Why if the body is sacred is it also something to be ashamed of and hidden?
How can early shame, guilt and fear programming have such a devastating effect on people and relationships even decades later?
Why is pleasure so feared and controlled?”
For most of my life I’ve been on a quest to answer these questions experientially for myself. There came a point many years ago when I set out consciously to embrace all the pleasure, joy, love, bliss and ecstasy that a life-denying, pain-glorifying, shaming and stultifying culture had encouraged me to reject; to reject for my own good of course!
Confronting Fear, Guilt And Shame
Confronting the fear, guilt and shame arising from my traditional Catholic upbringing, I’ve spent the last 25 years on a voyage of discovery, experimentation, playfulness and integration.
I’m passionate about the integration of sex and spirit, the personal empowerment and transformation it brings.
Exploring Diverse Life And Lovestyles
I’ve traversed the paths of marriage, monogamy, polyamory, celibacy, secret relationships and explored alternative and diverse life and lovestyles. I’ve known the height of ecstasy and the depth of despair.
I learned through direct experience what I could never have learned in any other way. Truth born of deep personal experience has a powerful luminosity that lights the way out of bondage to the lie that one is separate from the divine or ever could be.
Cosmic Orgasmic Experiences
I’ve had cosmic orgasmic experiences during which I had the felt experience in my body of being totally One with everything that existed.
This state of total bliss, ecstasy and rapture was far beyond anything words could come close to describing.
I learned that far from being an impediment to communion with the divine, the body is the ground in which we experience it.
A Lightbulb Moment
In 2013, I completed my training as a Tantra practitioner. I was enthusiastic about working with anyone who like me, didn't want to settle for the limiting cultural lie that one could be spiritual or sexual, but not both.
But from the start, about 99.9% of my clients were men. Over the next few years I got to see firsthand how men are conditioned in our culture into a disempowering model of sexuality that leads to burnout and breakdown. How a massive number struggle silently with sexual problems, fear of intimacy, sexless marriages, and much unease and distress around sex and relationships.
I had a lightbulb moment one day in which I saw what sexuality according to a man's natural design actually looks like. It is so beautiful, so love and life-affirming, a powerful expression of the divine life-force within.
It seems few men accept this, but every one deserves to know about it!
You may read more about this below, along with my personal story of why I created this website and offer what I do today.
I realised along the way that what a man held in his subconscious mind, that which lay beneath his awareness, was largely determining the results he was experiencing in love and life. Emotions carried over from past experiences and programming, that operated like a saboteurial force, to derail him from within.
But I didn't have an effective tool that could help a man to directly take his power back from all that.
When covid hit in 2020, I set out in earnest to find one. And I did; Clinical, Evidence-based EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques).
This is a powerful form of energy psychology which has been validated in over 100 published scientific studies.
Clinical EFT has a long track record of helping large numbers of people to facilitate real and lasting change.
Today, I'm an accredited, certified practitioner of Clinical EFT with EFT International.
Are You Looking For Change In Your Life?
Are you reading this because you're looking for change in your life? Maybe you instinctively know there's way more to your sexuality, and to you, than your culture has led you to believe?
Do you know what? You're right! And I'd love to serve you on your journey to discovering that through what you will find on this website.
And if you feel called to work one-to-one with me, you may discover more about how to do that here.